There are Five Words...

Last night, or actually this morning, very early, I couldn't sleep. I tried to get up walk around a little, fluff the pillows, steal back the covers, or just wait for sleep to come back to me, but to no avail, for a while anyway. This happens at least once a week, I have learned to live with it and the "hung over" feeling interrupted sleep gives you in the "actual" morning. I have spoken to the doc, he suggests Tylenol Pm. I take it when I haven't slept the previous night, at all. I don't like the fuzzy feeling that I get when I wake the next day. OOPS! I digress from my title. Here is what I thought about while trying to get back to sleep. There are 5 words. What the heck in thunder is she talking about? Well, sit back, relax, get a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever. I speak of these 5 words: "I love you," and "I'm sorry." Think about them. All of the advice columnists tell the love lorn that they need to say these words, that they are important in any relationship. All of the therapists tell folks that they are important. Twelve step programs tell folks that they must use "I'm sorry." In relation to "doing the steps." Both phrases, or sentences, are what I like to call healing words. They get you through, they help you along, they make you feel warm, safe and grounded. Think about it...if you never said either of those phrases in real context, how long would you last? If you never heard those words, again, how long would you last? I am not talking physically, emotionally. How many a marriage has been based on "I love you?" Most, I would assume. How many a marriage has been saved by, "I'm sorry?" More than I can count, I guess. I believe it is important for all children to hear "I love you," from both parents, even if it isn't the manly thing to do for Dad. Children thrive on those words, more so than on nutrition. You can give a child enough to eat, all the right food groups, but if you don't tell him or her that she or he is loved, a child won't grow. I also believe when we are wrong, it is the best thing to admit it and move on from there. "I'm sorry," is a powerful cleanser, you get a new chance to move on and to tell someone that you love them. Children need to hear that parents sometimes make mistakes, and ""I'm sorry," is the best way for them to know that a mistake was made. I know I make mistakes on a daily basis, I am human. "I'm sorry that I didn't get to the store for your favorite snack, it happens, let's choose something else." The ablility to accept flaws, the ability to understand that things cannot always be the way you want it, that we must move on from there. It is all in that little sentence. You see, I also believe that in hidden context, you are saying,"I love you." You are telling the person that you aren't perfect, that they aren't perfect, but in spite of that you are willing to admit it and move on with the relationship. No matter what relationship, even a bump in the street, I didn't mean to do that, but let's both move on from here. A person cannot know that they are loved unless they are shown and told. Not in material things, but things that matter. I get up to make breakfast for you, ("I love you.) I made your favorite dessert, ("I love you.) Ordinary things make the extrodinary, love put into it, and they are fantastic. These five words don't cost anything in money, they cost us pieces of ourselves, and isn't life worth those pieces?